If you are a fan of “The Secret” you will love this … we are revealing one of the best kept secrets for parents here on DIYFather.com. The secret is about helping your kids acquire a particular skill. As parents we are often inclined to help our kids by pointing out what they shouldn’t do. This rarely works and there is a good reason for it. When we point out to our kids what they shouldn’t do, they have to visualise what they shouldn’t do in order to understand what we mean. E.g. “don’t lean back when you are kicking the ball”. Unfortunately “the body” often responds to the visualisation by following it – i.e. our children end up doing exactly what they shouldn’t do.
So here’s the secret – if you are trying to help your kids acquire a skill avoid pointing out what they shouldn’t do. Instead only point out things they should be doing – e.g. “lean forward when you are kicking the ball”. Try it out – it really works!